Being beautiful is the concern of many women. McCann reveals in his
book,
“Nearly
70% of women globally think that being beautiful helps them get what they want
out of life, and the same number believe that the relationship between
happiness and beauty is directly proportional. 93% of women said they felt more
confident overall when they knew they looked beautiful.” (McCann, 2012, p.15).
Nowadays, 83%
of women believe there are higher standards of beauty today than there were in
the past. It
is changed because people’s perspective that comes from medias. Over half of women 16-34 say they started thinking
about aging and preserving their looks before the age of 30 (McCann, 2012, p.5) and in this era, we have known there is an instant way to
realize it. It is a plastic surgery. In this era being beautiful is only the
focus on getting better life. They are even willing to have pain from the surgery
provided that they get more beautiful faces as they wish. I think this is a
symbol for outer beauty. It should have a more important role than inner beauty.
Whereas there is an important thing that
they don’t realize. It is like Steven Maraboli’s quote, “When you are living the best version of yourself, you inspire others
to live the best version of themselves.” (goodreads.com, 2013,p1). You have to be the best version of yourself, but if
you perform the plastic surgery it means you will be another person’s version. I
agree with Maraboli about being your own best version because it includes what
the truly meaning of beauty itself. The natural
beauty of yourself is good enough to get take and give of life itself.
But if we look into
their concerns why they are such a case, there are three points that I want to
explain. First, they feel confident. As we know, all women are equal. They need
a compliment while it is about their beauty. In this era the beauty trend has
double eyelids, sharp nose, white skin, slim body, etc. So, if they feel they do
not belong to those criteria, they feel inferior. Also, they want to have
natural looking and feel acceptable. (TheLipTV,
October 2012). Second, they want to have young faces as long as they want. The
fear of women is sometimes about being old. If they have many sprinkles, they
do not look beautiful at all. The third is they want to get better life. As the data says 80%
agreed that looking beautiful makes it easier to find a partner or boyfriend
and easier to find a good job. (McCann, 2012, p.16).
The last is that they want other people to love and notice
them. Many women say they do a plastic surgery to be beautiful as their
boyfriends or husbands want. Even there is an extreme case in China. There are
two people who want to get married but the prospective husband wants her to imitate her face as his
beautiful ex-wife, the late. (“Bicara Hidayah”, 2013). This is the example of
being beautiful resulting in pain.
So, never think
doing the plastic surgery is easy. Besides we must have much money to do
it and of course we must be ready for the
pain of the surgery. And never think all plastic surgeries will be successful
as you wish because many cases are proved that deciding to do a plastic surgery
is not always good. For example, there is a woman, Rita Nugent who is willing
to pay IDR 45.0000.000 for a new nose. Unfortunately, her wish doesn’t come true.
Even her nose is cracked and it has a side effect for not only her nose but
also for her back mouth. As result, her nose will never be as equal as the
original one. (Vemale.com,2014, p1). Another example in which a plastic surgery
makes female patients die. Like Carolin Ebert with a five plastic breast surgery.
She passed away for the sixth surgery. It
occured because of low blood pressure, sudden disfunctioning organs and damaged
brain cells. (Perezhilton.com, 2011,p1). The last example is there is a woman
who suffers because her eyes can’t be closed forever due to plastic surgery
that he had done before. (Surgery Tubezs, November 2013). So there is no reason
to have a plastic surgery for your own. Besides the physical, mental failure can have impacts on someone who performs
plastic surgery. In the past some researchers found that patients who are
dissatisfied with surgery may request repeat procedures because of social isolation, family problems,
self-destructive behaviors and anger toward the surgeon and his or her staff in their office environment. They
feel they can’t socialize with their lives.(Dittman, 2004, p.2). In principle performing
plastic surgery can kill yourself silently because of many plastic surgeries. Rather
you spend your money for that one, it is better for you to spend your money for
good things .
So why do many women look for the hard way to be
beautiful? Don’t they realize that they are beautiful living creatures? As
women, we will get a space to be loved by people. Maybe those who perform the
plastic surgery will not have much confidence to be loved. Love does not see
the beauty of the face. It will feel in our hearts because the heart beats not
her face. It will open the women’s eyes eager to change their faces. You are
beautiful as you are. In principle please be confident. Never think you are
ugly. God creates us like His face. You should be proud. Now, you must think
and do more deeply about inner beauty. Don’t ever forget about that. If you
show the people your kindness and loyalty, it is more than enough for your
beauty to all over the world. Next, you can show your beauty from the way you think.
You can show up yourself via your brain. You can attract attention from people
everywhere with an everlasting way. After that, you can show your emotional
beauty like confidence, talent, charisma, kindness, intelligence.
(McCann, 2012, p.11.)
In the end, the outter beauty is not everlasting. It is
temporary.
Like
Zuckerman declares, "It's
not like looking good doesn't have real advantages--it does. If some people get
plastic surgery and other people don't, is that going to put the people who
don't at all kinds of disadvantages, such as in finding a job or spouse?" (Dittman,
2004, p.4).
Those who perform
the plastic surgery are those who think about temporary beauty. You must show
them your inner beauty because it is an evidence that you will be the best
version of yourself. Remember, women around the world believe that if they look
more beautiful then they will feel healthier and more confident, but there is more important thing. When they feel healthy and confident then this will shine
through, making them look more physically beautiful. You can have the truly meaning of beautiful now.
(McCann, 2012, p.11.)
In the end, you accept yourself and you are confident to be yourself.
It is also proved that you are respectful to God who creates you. Let God and
people respect and love you as you show them up your inner beauty.
